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Friday, May 11, 2012

The Forgotten Mother


(Genesis 29:31-32, 35)-NASB
31 Now the Lord saw that Leah was unloved, and He opened her womb, but Rachel was barren. 32 Leah conceived and bore a son and named him Reuben, for she said, ‘Because the Lord has seen my affliction; surely now my husband will love me.’

35 And she conceived again and bore a son and said, ‘This time I will praise the Lord.’ Therefore she named him Judah. Then she stopped bearing.”

The history of Mother’s Day can be traced back as far as the ancient Egyptian pagan rituals were mothers were considered blessed by the gods by having children.  In modern America, Mother’s Day can be traced back to Julia Ward Howe in 1872.  Julia Ward Howe is best known for writing the song The Battle Hymn of the Republic.  But the holiday that we celebrate was inspired by Anna Jarvis which was instituted in 1912.  Today it is a multi-billion dollar business which has everyone from the florist, to the chocolate candy manufacturers, to the restaurant industry cashing in heavy.[1]

Today I would like to speak about mothers.  Their importance in our lives is extreme.  If a child has a good mother, but a bad father, he or she is more likely to develop a strong moral compass.  William Ross Wallace in his titled mother’s day poem said it best, The Hand That Rocks the Cradle Is the Hand That Rules the World.  There is something extremely innate about the tie between mothers and their children.  I know that so much of what I have gone through in my life would have little meaning had it not been for my mom.  At the same time I look at the life of one of my nephews who is setting in prison for at least 15 to 30 years for aggravated assault, kidnapping, and robbery.  His life has been filled turmoil and the main source of irritation has been a single mother who never cared to have anything to do with him.  One moment of showing love to him from her would change everything.
The Bible is replete with mothers of all kinds.  Good ones, bad ones, funny ones, strange ones, smart ones, and of course foolish ones.   Most people when they focus on a mother for a study will look at Eve, or Hannah (Samuel’s mother) or Elizabeth (John the Baptist’s mom) or Mary, mother of Jesus or even Timothy’s mother and grandmother.  But there are other women in the Bible who give us a clear picture of the needs and hopes that moms have as well as the insight into what is or is not a good characterization of a mom.

One such mother in the Bible that I believe is often overlooked is Jacob’s wife, Leah.  The story starts in Genesis chapter 29:18 where Jacob confesses his love for Rachel, Leah’s younger sister.  Evidently, according to Laban, Leah and Rachel’s father, the older sister has to be given away in marriage first.[2]  None of this is explained to Jacob up front; so a deal is made between that Jacob would work for Rachel for seven years.  The way the deal goes is that at the end of the Jacob would get Rachel as his wife and he would be allowed to go back to his home in Canaan where his father Isaac and mother Rebecka lived.[3]  As a side note Laban is his uncle.[4]
The Bible says that seven years past like a brief moment in time.[5]  Finally the time has come, the wedding feast is thrown, and the bride enters the tent to spend the night with the groom.[6]  Sounds cool and appear to be the perfect love story, however the next morning Jacob wakes up to find that Laban had given him a special wedding gift.  The bride was not Rachel, but Leah![7]  The passage that follows breaks out into all kinds of outrage and anger.  Jacob is beside himself.  So a new deal is made and Jacob would receive Rachel upfront for an additional seven years of labor.[8]  This sets the scene for what is about to happen for the rest of Jacob’s life.

There are three things to note about Leah from the quoted scriptures above.  First, she was not the most loved person around.  Verse 31 states that she was “unloved.”  Not the greatest feeling.   The Bible gives us some small details about Leah.  Not only was she the first born,[9] but she is also someone with very week vision.[10]  Some theologians believe that the comment about her eyes may have a lot to do with her overall physical appearance.[11]  In other words she may have been a very weak looking person.  According to those who believe this is true, Rachel may have been a fairly big bone woman giving her the appearance of being stronger.[12]  This would make sense considering the fact that what was needed for that time period was be strength, not beauty.  If the appearance issue is true it would have even more to do with feeling unloved since most men may have gone after Rachel to court rather than Leah.  We have to take one more look at this issue of being “unloved.”  How do you think she felt when her dad slipped her into Jacob’s tent rather than letting Rachel marry him.  Talk about a shotgun wedding!  This takes the cake.
The second thing we see is that Leah knew she was not loved in verse 32.  This shows up at the birth of Reuben.  The meaning behind the name Reuben is given, “…‘Because the Lord has seen my affliction; surely now my husband will love me.’”  She could tell that Jacob didn’t love her.  She longed to have his affection.  Her father had betrayed her with the treachery on the wedding night.  Jacob had never showed interest in her before, what was to say he would now.  However, because a son was involved maybe things would be different; or at least that was her hope.  Feeling unloved did not keep her from loving, serving, or staying with Jacob.  Some may contribute this attitude with the day and age they were living, which may be true.  That being said, I believe that there was something deeper at work, something that kept things intact at the worst possible moments, which leads us to our third point.

Leah evidently had a relationship with God.  This can be seen from three different angles.  First, according verse 31 it states, “Now the Lord saw that Leah was unloved,…  While we know that the Lord sees everything (the doctrine of omniscience)[13] I think that He shows careful attention to His child.[14]  This would be an example of it; the Lord saw her situation and responded in a way that would give her some assurance.  The second way we can see she had a relationship with God is found in how she names her children.  With Reuben she talks about the Lord seeing her circumstances and with Judah in verse 33 she names him out of praise to God.  I believe this shows an acute awareness of the presence and person of God.  She knows He is present with her during her time of difficulty.  Last, we see that she had a relationship with God based on what her sister, Rachel, did that she didn’t do.  In a later chapter God instructs Jacob to leave.[15]  As they prepare to leave Rachel sneaks back to her father’s house and steals some idols that they worshipped.[16]  Leah did not do this, but Rachel did.  On a circumstantial level alone there appears to be a much deeper relationship with Yahweh.
While overlooked, Leah plays a very important part in all of our lives.  Not only does she reflect the qualities of faithfulness, a relationship with God, and endurance, but she is a person of importance historically.  Through Leah comes Judah; from Judah comes Boaz; from Boaz comes King David; from King David comes King Solomon; from King Solomon comes a whole host of family which leads to Joseph and Mary.  And from Mary comes Jesus the Christ, Savior of the world.[17][18]

From a mothers hand and heartache comes the gospel message of salvation and hope.  Little did she know that it would come to this, but I am certain that she continues to praise the God who included her son in His lineage.  From Jesus Christ and the sacrifice He made on the cross along with His great and glorious bodily resurrection we find salvation.  The ugly that we see come from Jacob, Leah, and Rachel’s lives are only representative of the ugly that God sees in our lives every day.  He is displeased with us and with our rebellion against Him, but He loves us.  Because of that love, He became a man, suffered on a cross because of our sin and rose from the dead three days later to give us hope and salvation if we just ask Him for it.
There are two points I wish to make regarding Leah’s life and Judah’s legacy leading to our Savior.  One, you as a mom may feel that your days are spent in loveless, worthless, daily, endless junk.  Remember that it is a relationship with God that sustains you.  Two, you don’t really know who you are raising.  If you read the rest of Genesis you will see that Judah was not the brightest nor was he the most morally spectacular son.  However, he was the most repentant and in the end the wisest.  While Joseph, his half younger brother, shines the most at the latter half of the book, if you read it carefully it is Judah who begins to display leadership toward doing the right thing.   So don’t despair, that child who you cry over today, may be the leader or raising the leader who God uses to share the gospel in the most dramatic way ever seen.

God’s Blessing On All The Moms!
Steven Swaim
President and Founder, Be Devoted Ministries

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[2] Genesis 29:26
[3] Ibid, 29:18-20
[4] Ibid, 27:43
[5] Ibid, 29:20
[6] Ibid, 29:21-24
[7] Ibid, 29:25
[8] Ibid, 29:30
[9] Ibid, 29:16
[10] Ibid, 29:17
[11] John H. Walton, The NIV Application Commentary-Genesis.  Zondervan, Grand Rapid, MI, 2001.  Pg. 586
[12] Ibid
[13] Proverbs 15:11
[14] Romans 8:28
[15] Genesis 31:11-13
[16] Ibid, 31:19
[17] Matthew 1
[18] Luke 1:26-38

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